15 Pole Dance Songs that Are *Sensual* But Not Overtly Sexual (2024)

As an instructor, I’m a bit pickier with my music than I am when dancing on my own. While I love *vibes*, it’s hard to ignore demeaning lyrics in songs with great beats that I’d otherwise love to share with students. I don’t know, I just feel like I’m promoting substance abuse or devaluing/objectifying yourself when I play this music, and I don’t want students to associate pole with that kind of negativity.

So through very scientific means (starting a Pandora station for every song I remotely like to dance to), here are a few songs I’ve found that I love to play for student freestyle time. They’re sensual and vibey, but mostly low on sex or drugs references. (The nasty songs will have to be a separate post, ha).

Let me know if you’d dance to this, and share any suggestions or favorite songs below!

1. Like I Want You, Giveon

I love Giveon for groovy, vibey music that captures that has a kind of torch-song longing mood. Bonus points for smooth vocals and an excellent BPM.

2. Rewind, Ravyn Lanae

Slightly more upbeat, this song has whispery sweet, feminine vocals and in interesting beat with lots of details to create accent movements with.

3. I Want You Around, Snoh Aalegra

Clean and bright, this bass-heavy track would pair well with smooth, exotic-style flow.

4. Last Dance, Leisure

I LOVE Leisure for pole. This is one of my favorite songs. They have funk and disco-inspired beats with understated, indie-feeling vocals that allow for lots of variation in speed, tempo, and accent moments. Just, *chef’s kiss,* mellow perfection.

5. Ideal Woman, Celeste

This is a slow, gooey guitar-driven R&B song with lowkey feminist edge to it. Love it for a fierce, take-your-time freestyle that feels more about power and control than enticing anyone.

6. So Young, Portugal the Man

Indie vibes, syncopated beat, groovy vibes.

7. Best Mistake (Slowed Reverb Version), Ariana Grande

I love this song anyway, but slowed down, it’s soulful, sad, moody, and the perfect tempo.

8. Baby Powder, Jenevieve

This has the beat of nasty 90s R&B but with sweet vocals and high standards.

9. Come Gimme Love, King Sis

Upbeat and smooth, this song is flirty but PG.

10. My Love Mind All Mine, Mitski

Okay okay, you’ve heard this a million times on TikTok, but the mellow, melancholy vibe of this song and it’s short length make it perfect for a relaxed, easy-going closing freestyle.

11. Wicked Games (Clean), Kiana Lede

Slow, vibey, and angsty as hell, this song has lots of tempo-change and accent opportunities.

12. My Heart Bleeds, Rhye

Rhye makes really spare sounding music rife with sexual tension. Vibes!

13. Good Thing, Kehlani

Bombshell theme song! This one is upbeat, unapologetic, and would be great to choreograph to. Plus you can’t beat the message..

14. Be More, Stephen Sanchez

If you’re a fan of emotional, retro sounds, you might like Stephen Sanchez. It has the feel of 60s torch songs with a modern, restrained singing style.

15. All Over You, Leisure

I really like Leisure, okay?!

So that’s the list! What did you thing–would you or do you already dance to these? I have a few NSFW songs to share too, so that will have to be a follow up post.

See you in class!

-Cathy

Music Monday: Not Afraid Anymore, Halsey

 

Yes it’s a cliche to pole to a song from 50 Shades Darker (Grey? Grai? Whatever, it’s technically from the “Darker” film anyway).

Cliches exist for a reason, and as shitty as these movies are, the soundtracks are pretty on point. Exhibit A is “Not Afraid Anymore” which is dark, moody, dangerous, and… hot.

Music Monday: John Legend

Okay as much as I hated that Chrissy Teigen wedding song (but don’t get it twisted, I love Chrissy)… I have a lot of love for O.G. John Legend.

Even his song in Lalaland was good? (And lawd knows I have as much hate for that movie as for the Chrissy Teigen wedding song).

P.D.A. (We Just Don’t Care)

Sexy, happy, fun, upbeat… a great feelgood freestyle song.

Save Room

I mean come on. Same as above. Fun, cute, sessy… you know the deal.

PS. Here’s John Legend without a shirt. YOU’RE WELCOME.

Slow Dance

No one seems to ever know this song?!! But it’s so chill and sexy. It’s been on my playlist for a good 8 years now. We’re talking OG iPod Mini status.

Heaven Only Knows

Good upbeat lyrical fodder.

Overload (feat. Miguel)

Lyricallllll girl, get it. Love the raw, emotional quality of his voice here.

Marching into the Dark

Funky, lyrical… cool.

Quickly

Fun warmup song! How good does Brandy sound on here?!

Open Your Eyes

I love his version of this, omg. (I love the original too, PS). This is lyrical all the way.

 

Am I missing anything??? Do you also hate “All of Me“? Seriously, fuck that song.

Is this project stupid? pls advise

So I’m taking this emerging media platforms class and it’s all about incorporating cutting edge technology into reporting and telling stories (being that my study track is “journalism”).

My final assignment (omg I’m so close to being done with school I CAN TASTE IT you guys), is to pick a technology and try out a new way of ~doing journalism~ with it.

This is a tall order because so far we’ve studied:

  1. drones
  2. 3d
  3. 360 video
  4. sensors
  5. something else I’m probably not remembering because I’m really outta my element here

Frankly, I’m not that interested in any of these things. But sensors caught my eye. Did you know there are stores for different kind of sensors that measure different things that you can buy and use???

Actually this is not quite true, but more on that in a minute. (Note: if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is).

Anyway, I found a MUSCLE SENSOR that measures muscle movements, yo!

(PS. Sorry for the “yos,” I’m watching Breaking Bad again. #jesse #bitch)

I immediately got excited about this because of POLE. (one track mind y’all, my classmates are fed up with my ass, I swear).

I thought: what if you could measure shoulder and grip effort in different grip patterns? This is mainly because I’m keenly aware of all these twisted grip controversies and was wondering if there was an objectively way of measuring words we tend to just throw around like “dangerous” and “difficult.”

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Twisted grip-y move

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…and collapsing in pain immediately after.

Is twisted grip dangerous because it requires more strength than some of us objectively have? It it actually safer because it requires less hand strength to hold, and is therefore more suitable to beginners with very little grip training?

I set out to answer these questions in my field test, and wow, did I underestimate how hard this was going to be.

First of all, sensors, LOL, they do nothing alone. You have to build a mother fucking circuit you guys.

I’m really pressed for time because I’m working full time and taking another class, so this is me soldering in my night gown on a Saturday morning because this is my life lately.

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PS. I HAD TO LEARN TO SOLDER FOR THIS CLASS, ARE YOU F***ING KIDDING ME.

This was definitely an all day thing so we pumped some jams. I woke up just feeling like I needed to hear “Magic Stick,” so I made a Magic Stick playlist. This came on. Soldering was LIT:

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I know you want to hear this song now so click this link for the YouTube video. I GOTCHU BOO

 

Anyway, after several hours of watching YouTube tutorial videos on things like wire stripping and solder bridge removal, I realized this field test was just not going to work.

For one thing, the numbers streaming in (just… numbers, like 42, 86, 90) weren’t really showing any discernible patterns, even as I flexed a muscle. At first I attributed this to poor soldering, and spent another $34 on a new sensor and resoldered that shit. But on testing this new one, it became clear to me that the slightest motion of the wires (draped on a table as I tested the sensor) was skewing my results, big time.

Proooooobably safe to say that that my idea of strapping this on and trying out pole grips is now doomed, but, I’m going to try it this weekend anyway and see what happens.

Soldering/breathing fumes into the night:

So what do you guys think of this idea?

If I get better at soldering and MyoWare makes a much less motion sensitive and accurate muscle sensor, would this information be useful?

Would you read a story about the muscle output for different poses on the pole, or be into a new system of categorization for pole moves using this info?

I could definitely see this being useful to people working with injuries. Knowing that one grip puts a lot more strain on a bum shoulder than another could be very useful. But that’s just me.

Feedback please!

Say something interesting and I might quote you in my final presentation on this ;D

XOXO